The Habit of Thinking You Make No Difference


After the initial discussion and excitement over the A subsides, I predict to the students in my Friday class that it will not be long before a voice in their heads will whisper something along these lines:

Why should I bother to go to class today? I already have my A. And I've got so much to do; I really need to practice on my own. Anyway, it's such a large class, he probably won't even notice

I tell the students that this is the first symptom of a widespread disease called "second fiddle-itis," popularly known as "playing second fiddle." People who perceive their role in a group to be of little significance (second violins for example) are particularly vulnerable to its ravages. The string players in an orchestra often see themselves as redundant foot soldiers, virtual cannon fodder for the egoistical whim of the conductor. Many other players, after all, duplicate their part. This is not true for the lead trumped or the main wind players, who are soloists within the orchestra.

A string player just entering a new position in an orchestra will often start off with great enthusiasm, take his part home at night, and continue to do careful and regular practice in his spare time. However, when it begins to dawn on him that his stand partner stopped practicing years ago and that conductor does not seem to care or even to hear when players are out of tune, he too quickly begins to show signs of the onset of the disease.

A first oboist, on the other hand, is unlikely to give up making reeds or to miss a rehearsal. It is simply too noticeable. In all my years of conducting, I do not believe I have ever known a first oboe to be late for a rehearsal. Is it because the oboe has to be there at the beginning to tune everyone to the A?

"So," I tell the class,"the next time you hear the little second-violin melody in your head that says,"I am not going to class because I'm too tired,' or 'I have too much to do, and I know it won't make any difference anyway' remember that you are an A student. An A student is a leading player in any class, an integral voice, and the class cannot make its music without that voice."

One, in Spain, I saw a big sign outside a little shop. It read:

ALVAREZ
Shoemaker
and
Lessons in
Second Violin

I found myself hoping that Alvarez's great humility did not irrevocably limit the aspirations of his students.

However, when I myself had the privilege of playing string quartets with Robert off, the founding second violinist of the Julliard String Quartet, I came away convinced that the real leader of the string quartet is the second violin. Not because Koff dominated the rust of us, but because in his part he had all the inner rhythms and harmonies, and he gave them such clarity and authority that we were all tremendously influenced by his playing. He was leading us from the "seconds". In a truly great string quartet, all four players are doing that simultaneously.


How to Step There


Now we come to the hart of the matter. What is the practice that orients you to a universe of possibility? It is a practice for revealing the hidden framework from which the world of measurement springs, When you see how thoroughly that framework, like the box around the nine dots, rules your life, you will have located yourself in the realm of possibility beyond it. So, first, ask your self:

How are my thoughts and actions, in this moment, reflections of the measurement world?

You look for thoughts and actions that reflect survival and scarcity, comparison and competition, attachment and anxiety. Notice that the question is not,"Are my thoughts......" which is a question of assessment, but, "How are my thoughts....." which is a true inquiry. See how easy it is to argue that you are an exception, that you personally are not governed by any such set of assumptions. This, of coursed, is another example of the measurement world at work.

So when you notice yourself thinking, for instance, that is line of inquiry must apply to men more than to women because men are so competitive, and you recognize that thought as your first bit of evidence that your measurement mind is at work, you ask yourself again:

How are my thoughts and actions, in this new moment, a reflection of the measurement world?
And how now?

You keep asking the question until you finally appreciate how hopeless it is to escape being shaped by the assumptions that underlie all of lie. And then you may begin to laugh. And when someone asks, "How are you?" it may appear to you utterly ridiculous to try to assess yourself, or to express life as a struggle and a burde, and before you know it, the world "perfect" may just pop out. And you will be smiling. For you will have stepped into a universe of possibility.

Of course, you won't have arrived.


The World Of Measurement


We propose to call our familiar everyday world the "world of measurement" in order to highlight the central position held by assessments, scales, standards, grades, and comparisons. In his story of the everyday, each of us strives for success, hoping to arrive at a better place than where we are. On our path to achieving a goal we inevitably encounter obstacles. Some of the more familiar ones, aside from the people, are scarcities of the time, money, power, love, resources, and inner strength.

All the manifestations of the world of measurement--the winning and losing, the gaining of acceptance and the threatened rejection, the raised hopes and the dash into despair--all are based on a single assumption that is hidden from our awareness. The assumption is that life is about staying alive and making it through--surviving in a world of scarcity and peril. Even when life is at its best in the measurement world, this assumption is the backdrop for the play, and, like the invisible box around the nine dots, it keeps the universe of possibility out of view.

Certain responses are better suited than others to an environment where survival is the issue, all of which are prevalent in the world of measurement. Alertness to danger, a clever strategic min, an eye for assessing friend and foe, a knack for judging strength and weakness, the know-how to take possession of resources, a measure of mistrust, and a good dollop of fear are some of the qualities that will safeguard us. Keeping our armor intact is of critical importance as well, which means resisting any challenge to our personal viewpoint.

We also feel more secure when we can identify objects and determine their location. An indication of this is that the term minefield stands as a universally appreciated metaphor for danger. If feels safer to deal with reality as though it were fixed, as though people, ideas, and situations can be fully known and measured.

We grow up in a world of measurement, and in this world, we get to know each other and things by measuring them, and by comparing and contrasting them. We know a child as compared to other children, a performance of a Puccini aria by a local tenor as contrasted to one sung by Pavarotti, or a company's year-end statement as it stacks up to earlier projections. In order to be in a position to assess, judge, and report on circumstances, the individual stand back, identifying himself, and by extension his group, as separate from others. That opinionated "little voice in the head" is almost always speaking from Measurement Central. Life in the measurement world seems to be arranged in hierarchies: some groups, people, bodies, places, and ideas seem better or more powerful than others. Lines appear, dividing in inside from an outside: some people, races, and organizations are safer and more desirable to belong to than others. There are only so many pieces of the pie.

The dramatic action in this world of success and failure has to do with overcoming odds and prevailing, or being acknowledged and included. Virtually every children's book. every made-for-television special follows the pattern. Competition is the vehicle to success, and metaphors based on competitive sports and war applied to almost any situation. Conversations among friends chronicle personal trials and triumphs. Certain feelings mirror the ups and downs of fortune in the world of measurement: love for our own, for instance, and sympathy for those weaker than we are; fear, anger, and despair at losing; and, of course, the exhilaration of having come out on top.

Just as virtually everybody adds the clause within the square formed by the outer dots to the instructions for the nine-dot puzzle; virtually everybody, whether living in the lap of luxury or in diminished circumstances, wakes up in the morning with the unseen assumption that life is about the struggle to survive and get ahead in a world of limited resources.

"Hey, bring some lines out here!"






The Sky is Not the Limit


I often begin my Monday master class at Walnut Hill with a topic that has only relationship to music. It is a way of getting the students to think of their lives in a wider context than the daily routine of practice, classes, and occasional performances. As a teacher I have an enormous opportunity to create possibility in every conversation. One class launched into a fascinating discussion about risk, danger, and breaking through barriers. Because I was going to NASA to give a leadership talk the next day, it occurred to ma to ask the students to write about the similarities between the NASA program and their life with music. They know by now that what I mean is, "Talk about the dreams and aspirations in common, talk about spirit, talk about being,"But I wasn't altogether prepared for the mastery with which they spoke of both music and the space program as possibility. Here are some of the spontaneous expressions they jotted down in class, addressed to the people I was about to meet at NASA.


"In the same way NASA use mathematics and machinery, we musicians must use sound. Sound can explore the soul, coax out dreams and possibilities that before were lost in inky blackness. A beautiful sonata escapes gravity. We are not very different, you and I. Our minute individual persons are small, but our life-journeys can span galaxies. NASA is granted billions of dollars and, for the insistence of possibility it bestows on the world, it is worth every penny."

Amanda Burr, age 16

"You are a diplomats, the representatives of the world over here. You are going into nowhere to search and to be intrigued at the smallest inkling of discovery. You are representing us to discover, explore, and find the possibility to escape the box known as earth, an go as far as possible. You have the responsibility to push thinking and ideas beyond limits, into the ethers, through the nothing into the something........Music is similar to space, it is an exploration, a responsibility to push through the confines of pages of music, to go as far and as fast as the mind will work................................"

Dave Lanstein, age 16


"The world counts on you to open up new possibilities and discover what we humans can do....................The only time when music or space have boundaries is when humans create them. Thank you for keeping the possibilities alive."

Ashley Liberty, age 14


When I came to give my talk to the NASA employees at the Robert Goddard Space Center,I walked on stage, looked out over the sea of face, and saw there the very people describe in the letters I held in in my hand. During my presentation I told the NASA audience about the young people at the Walnut Hill School, read the letters, and left the originals with them. Not long after, I received a communication from the project manager. He said that the presentation had had a big impact and had helped reenergize and refocus many in the audience who had forgotten why they had come to work for NASA in the first place. And then he went on:

"NASA was ....incredibly moved by the talented young students who wrote their wonderful "letter to NASA." The letters captured a simple beauty as to why NASA exists. The students communicated in a way that those of us who work here have never been able to express.As you know, each person asked for a copy of the letters and was overwhelmed by the power of the message and the talent of your students.
Our people were so moved that they decided to write letters to your class. Their enclosed letters are a personal "thank you" and reveal a side of NASA not typically seen-- a warm, emotional side that gets to the core of why we do what we do.
Please let your students know that when we showed the letters to one of our Space Station senior managers, the decision was made to include them on future space missions. The letters will be placed on a CD-ROM being prepared for the initial builders and inhabitants of the Space Station. Your students words will continue to inspire our explorers, especially during the long and isolated times when they will face their greatest challenges in space.
On behalf of all of us at NASA, please give our heartfelt thanks to your students for their inspiration."

Sincerely yours,
Ed Hoffman
Program Manager, Program/Project Management Initiative
National Aeronautics and Space Administration Headquarters

NASA did send a CD-ROM with the letters from the students at Walnut Hill School into space. Their words and aspirations are now circling the earth on the International Space Station.

And here a few of the many letters the people at NASA sent to the young people at the Walnut Hill School:

"Your comments about our efforts at NASA were very much appreciated and very heart-warming to me. Often we hear about the high cost of space flight but not very often the positive aspect brought a tear to the eyes of many us.
Thank you for reminding me of what I am here for. I will have to remember "I am here today to cross the swamp, not to fight all the alligators." Thanks.

"Thank you for your beautiful and eloquent words of encouragement on space exploration. They so poetically remind us of our grander purpose. Coming from you, explorers of sounds and keepers of the future, they are particularly meaningful. Each of us, in our own way, works to evoke a greater depth of understanding of our past,present and future. may your sounds reach the stars."

The Practice of framing possibility calls upon us to use our minds in a manner that is counterintuitive: to think in terms of the contexts that govern us rather than the evidence we see before our eyes. It trains us to be alert to a new danger that threatens modern life-the danger that unseen definitions, assumptions, and frameworks may be covertly chaining us to the downward spiral and shaping the conditions we want to change.

But look what magical powers we have! We can make a conscious use of our way with words to define new frameworks for possibility that bring out the part of us that is most contributory, most unencumbered, most open to participation. And why not say that is who we really are?

Here is an example of a leader, framing possibility, offering a new way for us to define ourselves. Nelson Mandela is reported to have addressed these words of Marianne Williamson's to the world at large.

Our deepest fear is not what we are inadequate,
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous--
Actually,who are you not to be?


You are a child of God
Your playing small doesn't serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people
Won't feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us.
It is not just in some of us: it is in everyone,
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously
Give other people permission to do the same.

 
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